Scripture tells us that those who hear, and keep, the Word of God are wise, and they will bring forth fruit with patience (Matt. 7:24; Luke 8:15). I desire to bring forth the fruit that Father is looking for, but the Holy Spirit reminds me often — “You have need of patience!” Do you get this reminder too?
Patience is a ‘Fruit of the Spirit’ (Galatians 5:22-23). Patience is a fruit that seems to take months, even years, to ripen. Cultivating this very precious ‘Fruit of the Spirit’ takes a determined decision.
Truly, patience is not ‘instantly’ acquired.
Patience Is Vital!
Patience is a virtue that is under-rated. Once a person begins to practice patience, it becomes clear that patience is a virtue that is highly desirable. I love it whenever I actually practice patience!
Patience is waiting. Waiting is being patient! You cannot have one without the other. Scriptures exhort us to ‘wait patiently‘ and to ‘patiently wait‘ (Psalms 37:7 and Romans 8:25). Patience is essential if we desire to mature and grow in our faith!
Another word for patience is long-suffering. This aptly describes what I go through whenever I try to patiently wait. I experience an anguish that seems almost unbearable; in other words, suffering – long.
However, my little bouts with long-suffering are nothing compared to the ‘great cloud of witnesses’ and what they patiently endured. The faith-filled ‘strangers and pilgrims’ of Hebrews chapter 11, patiently waited, enduring for years to see Father’s Words fulfilled.
How Can We Learn To Be Patient?
Is it possible to learn patience in this age of technology, with instant access to nearly anything?
People of long-ago had a slower pace of living, and everything took much longer to be accomplished. Patience was a normal part of life. But, is there any help for us today to cultivate this vital, and very-necessary, Fruit of the Spirit?
First of all, if we are Born-Again, united to Yahushua Messiah [Jesus Messiah], and if we have also received the Baptism in the Holy Spirit, then the Fruit of the Spirit will begin to be very evident in our lives. Our relationship with Yahushua Messiah will be enriched through the Holy Spirit Baptism. And, we will gain a greater ability to exhibit the Fruits of the Spirit.
[If you are not sure if you have received the Holy Spirit Baptism, see: Have You Received the Holy Spirit Since You Believed?]
Secondly, exhibiting the Fruits of the Spirit can be a battle between our heart’s desire to ‘walk in the Spirit,’ and the fleshly desires of our selfish, carnal nature.
Our carnal ‘old man,’ many times, wants to rise up and claim its ‘rights.’ However, by the enabling grace and mercy of our Heavenly Father, the Holy Spirit can indwell us, and assist us in gaining His Fruit of the Spirit.
There are a few clues we can discover [with the Holy Spirit’s help], for cultivating this wonderful Fruit of the Spirit called patience. Here are a four clues that I’ve discovered:
1. Fret Not
One clue is to recognize and remember the opposite of patience:
Rest in Yahuwah [the LORD], and wait patiently for him: fret not thyself …. (Psalms 37:7)
As this verse shows us, fretting is the opposite of patience.
Do you find yourself fretting or being agitated? Are you easily irritated or impulsive? These things are evidence of impatience, or a hastiness of spirit, and such behaviours result in many troubles (Proverbs 14:29). These kind of emotions and feelings are warning signals that we are wounding, or plucking off, the precious Fruit of the Spirit — patience.
Fretting-type emotions are a normal part of life. We live in a fallen world, so impatience will happen. We all deal with fretting, anger, and irritations. Yet, if we desire to grow up, mature, and be pleasing to Yahuwah [the LORD], then we will recognize that our impatience does not solve our problems!
Instead, we need to begin asking Father’s help to be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath (James 1: 19).
To mature and cultivate patience, it is helpful to remember the similar words for patience — waiting, long-suffering, delay, diligence, endurance, cautious, forbearance, calmness, fortitude, perseverance. Let us seek Father’s grace and mercy to make these qualities a part of our lives.
I especially like that word fortitude. It means ‘strength of mind that enables one to endure adversity with courage.’ That inspires me to have a resolute determination to patiently do what is right and excellent!
2. The Rewards
A great clue for learning to be patient is knowing, holding tightly to, and expecting to receive, the outstanding REWARDS for patience:
- It is through patiently waiting on Yahuwah that He hears our cry. Psalms 40:1
- It is through patience that we gain in understanding. Proverbs 14:29
- It is through patience and faith that we inherit the promises. Hebrews 6:12
- It is through patience that we grow, become mature, and lack nothing. James 1:4
- It is through patience that we wait for the redemption of our bodies. Romans 8:23-25
- It is through patience that we do Father’s will. Hebrews 10:35,36
- It is through patience that we learn to keep Father’s commandments, as well as obtain the faith of Yahushua. Revelations 14:12
I believe there is always a reward for being patient! Even ‘waiting-in-line’ yields the reward of finally being ‘first-in-line!’
When I am truly patient — when I wait on Yahuwah for His direction or intervention, He always blesses me. When I patiently wait on Yahuwah, that alone is a victory for me, because I am truly ‘walking in the Spirit!’ As a result, I naturally have a sense of expectancy, looking for the reward of Father showing Himself strong on my behalf! (2Chronicles 16:9)
3. The Wisdom of ‘Instruction’
Being patient perhaps comes more easily with age. However, if we are wise, and willing to be instructed, then patience can be cultivated in our youth as well.
A major clue for those desiring to cultivate patience is practicing the wisdom of being willing to be instructed. Everyone needs to be open to instruction! [Hint: There is a precious amount of wisdom/instruction to be gleaned from trustworthy elders (Job 12:12).]
One who wants to learn patience will recognize the wisdom of receiving instruction! This is an excellent characteristic:
Hear instruction, and be wise, and refuse it not. (Proverbs 8:33)
Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be yet wiser. (Proverbs 9:9)
Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end. (Proverbs 19:20)
These verses teach us that it takes wisdom to receive instruction. Yet, receiving instruction requires a patience of spirit. Being patient of spirit means we will begin to slow down, be quiet, calm down, stop talking, listen, and receive the instruction that Yahuwah is trying to give us.
Simply being quiet is a huge step in the right direction!
As we saw in Trusting In Yahuwah With All Your Heart, trusting Yahuwah begins with a willingness to not lean on our own understanding (Proverbs 3). That in itself, requires that we begin to learn to be patient of spirit, quiet, willing to listen, and receive instruction.
4. Hide Yahuwah’s Word in Our Heart
One more clue in learning patience is to hide Yahuwah’s Word in our heart. When we do this, we will have the Holy Spirit’s encouragement springing up within us in our moments of need for patience:
- “A soft answer turns away wrath” (Prov 15:1)
- “He that is slow to anger appeases strife” (Prov 15:18)
- “He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty” (Prov 16:32)
- “The patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit” (Ecc 7:8)
- “The wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God” (James 1:20)
- “Love endures all things” (1Cor 13:7)
- “Endure hardness, as a good soldier of Yahushua Messiah” (2Tim 2:3)
- “Endure as seeing Him Who is invisible” (Heb 11:27)
- “Endure chastening, for it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness” (Heb 12: 7,11)
Storing these Scripture verses in our heart will nourish us at just the right moment!
The patient man prays readily for his enemies; forgives offenses from his heart; does not hesitate to ask pardon of others; is more easily moved to pity than to anger. — Thomas a Kempis
We all need Father’s help to be more patient. So let us ask for His help to grow in patience! And let us remember — there are rewards for being patient!
Please see the companion post: Am I Waiting Patiently or Seeking My Own Solution
- Enduring Our Trials
- More Precious Than Gold
- Words of Wise Men Are Heard In Quiet
- Walking In Newness of Life
- The Wise and Foolish Virgins: Steps to Obtaining Wisdom
- True Grace
- Prize of the Ironman – a personal story about one man’s character training in endurance and perseverance