Keeping The Fifth Commandment: Honouring Our Parents

family silhouetteThose who are beginning to be serious about following Messiah Yahushua [Jesus], are becoming serious about following the Ten Commandments of Yahuwah Elohim [the LORD God]. Central among the Ten is the Fifth Commandment, which is a commandment with a promise:

Honour your father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with you, and (that) you may live long on the earth. (Ephesians 6:1-3)

This tells us that if we will be obedient to the Fifth Commandment by honouring our parents, we have this promise:

  • things will be well with us, and things will go well with us! (See Deuteronomy 5:16)

Let’s see why this commandment is so important.

Our First Authority

Our first and most intimate authority is our parents! Yahuwah gives us our parents to be our first earthly authorities. They represent the intimate nature of Yahuwah’s government, and His dealings in our lives.

Even though parents have many faults and they make lots of mistakes, Yahuwah, as our supreme authority, has entrusted them with children. It is our parents’ position as Yahuwah’s authority in our lives, that is so very important for us as children to respect.

Yahuwah watches us very closely to see how we behave toward our authorities, and especially, our most intimate authority — our parents! Why? Because our parents represent Yahuwah’s intimate authority in our lives! How we respect Yahuwah’s designated authorities in our life, is how we respect Yahuwah Himself!

Our Own Behavior Matters

Our parents may not be serving Yahuwah. They may not be living righteous lives. They may not be skilled in their parenting of children. But none of this matters — because Yahuwah is watching us, with regard to our own behavior toward our parents.

It is our own behavior that we must be concerned about. It is our own behavior that we must adjust, so that we ourselves are in harmony with Father’s standards, regardless of what our parents do!

Yes, some parents are unrighteous, and unworthy of honour! All parents have faults, and make numerous mistakes! No parent has ever been perfect! Many parents have issues and struggles that developed from their own childhood. But most parents want, and try, to do their best in raising their children.

Our parents are the ones Yahuwah gives to us to be our first and foremost intimate, earthly authority. Because of their intimate position, our parents do many good things for us. They nurture and care for us, and do many things for us that we are completely unaware of!

And so Yahuwah charges us with the responsibility as children to honour, respect, and obey our parents. This means we are to be subject to our parents, yielded to obedience to their instruction. We are to be obedient to them in all things that are not sinful, not forbidden by the Word of God.

Even as adults, we need to maintain this submissive attitude toward our parents. Our heavenly Father’s counsel for us through our parents does not stop being valid, just because we have reached a certain age. Instead, as we mature, Father expects more of us, and tests our honouring of Him by how we honour our parents.

If we really want to be wise, and go the ‘second mile’ — if we really want to please Yahuwah, then we will seriously consider applying the command of Colossians 3:20 to ourselves:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.”

Going the second mile of Colossians 3:20, to honour our parents, requires that we trust and believe the Heavenly Father’s abundant love for us! It shows us, and the Lord, that we truly believe He will work on our behalf, and that He will work out our concerns for our good! (See 2Chronicles 16:9a; Romans 8:28.) Such efforts on our part will teach us humility and patience, and will train us to sincerely seek God whenever we have a disagreement with our parents.

Most parents do not want to “take over” the lives of their adult children. Most parents simply want their children to be happy and peaceful, and to walk in Yahuwah’s truths and blessings.

Yahuwah gives our parents intimate insight into us as their children, no matter what age we are. Our parents understand many unspoken details about us. As their children, it is important for us to patiently listen to and consider their suggestions. Parents’ insights are important, God-given clues for direction. The suggestions our parents give us may become confirming guidance from the Holy Spirit.

Dangers of Dishonouring

If we resist and scorn our parents, we are resisting God’s earthly authorities in our lives, what Yahuwah has ordained and established for our spiritual training. If we dishonour our parents, or are disrespectful to them, then we are in danger of coming under a curse:

Cursed be anyone who dishonors his father or his mother. And all the people shall say, ‘Amen.’ (Deuteronomy 27:16)

Disrespectfulness of parents is a dangerous attitude to exhibit. Those who dishonour their parents will not have things going well with them, consistently!

What is our attitude toward our parents?

Do we consider ourselves better than our parents? Are we without faults and sins?

Certainly not! Yet many of us are guilty of secretly harboring a superior attitude toward our parents. This kind of attitude causes us to be disrespectful to our parents. It causes us to regard our parents lightly, treating them with indifference, perhaps shunning them, scorning them, or even hating them.

We may outwardly try to be respectful to our parents, but if inwardly we regard them as inferior, we show that we hate them. We regard them with contempt, if we consider them ‘old-fashioned’ or ‘out-of-touch’ with the times.

But let me caution you Dear Reader. This kind of inward attitude toward parents is an indication of a hardened heart, and reveals that we have a rebellious attitude against the heavenly Father Himself!

A revealing clue of our attitude toward God is the way we treat our parents. The way we regard and behave toward our authorities, is the way we regard and behave toward God!

Messiah’s Example

If we honestly desire to love and honour God, then we will make sure to maintain an attitude of respect, honour, thankfulness, and yieldedness to our parents — regardless of our parents’ personal problems. We will examine ourselves regarding our obedience to the Fifth Commandment, looking to see whether things are going well with us, or not.

Father has called you and me to be servants, just like Messiah Yahushua [Christ Jesus], who said, I am among you as the one who serves” (Luke 22:27). Yahushua Messiah is our example to follow! He came to serve, not retaliate:

When He suffered, He threatened not, but committed Himself to Him that judges righteously!” (1Peter 2:23)

Yahuwah wants us to serve faithfully, the authorities He places over us — the good authorities, as well as, the not-so-good authorities. If we desire to walk with God, doing what is right in His sight, then we will yield to our parents wishes; we will learn what they desire of us, and be submissive to them, as long as they are not requiring us to clearly violate the Scriptures.

[If our authority is asking us to do something that violates Scripture, then that is the time for earnestly seeking Father’s direction. We are to then wait patiently for His intervention on our behalf, and respectfully make an appeal, if necessary. The prophet Daniel is a great example of faithfully and respectfully serving, in the natural realm, even his ungodly authorities, while still maintaining His obedience to the Scriptures (see Daniel chapters 1, 2, and 6).]


If we are serious about following Messiah Yahushua, we need to develop a humble, respectful spirit, and learn the spiritual lessons of humility and servanthood. We must stop thinking so highly of ourselves! We need to become the servant that Abba Father desires us to be — that is, we need to lay down ‘my’ rights; and we need to surrender ‘my’ agenda.

Our parents are representative of the intimacy of Yahuwah’s government, and He warns us: Cursed be anyone who dishonors his father or his mother!

Those who seek to truly honour their parents will live in the blessings of Yahuwah!

Honouring parents is a major foundational KEY to receiving the blessing of well-being!

Let us seek with all our heart to keep the Fifth Commandment, by respecting and honouring our parents!

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5 comments on “Keeping The Fifth Commandment: Honouring Our Parents
  1. Sue in Aqaba says:

    Awesome article – thanks so much for presenting an important godly viewpoint that is often ignored even in the Body of Messiah.

    • goodnewsfromadistandland says:

      Thank you Sue, for your visit and your comment! It is great to hear from you!
      Shalom and Blessings to you and your household :)

    • Sue in Aqaba says:

      A blessed chag to you!!!

  2. Kevin Kelly says:

    I will share your post – many blessings to you ! Praise be to Adonai!

    • goodnewsfromadistantland says:

      Blessings to you as well. Thank you for taking the time to comment.

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