Do we continually find it difficult to love others?
Do we find ourselves involved in one troublesome situation after another?
If people in our life seem to be constantly irritating us, then it would be wise for us to take a serious look at something. We should look to see whether there might be something about our words that is very displeasing, and perhaps even offensive, to our Abba Father.
If we would like an indicator of our spiritual condition, then we can just listen to our own words, to get a clear and true indication of our maturity level. For it is by the words we speak that we reveal what is in our heart! “Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh” (Matthew 12:34 and Luke 6:45).
For Believers in Yahushua Messiah [Jesus Christ], one of the most important signs that we are growing up spiritually is that by our words, we are holding tightly to our profession of faith in Yahushua Messiah [Jesus Christ] (see 1Timothy 6:12; Hebrews 10:23).
Holding tightly to our profession [or proclamation] of faith, means we will be making very sure that the words we speak are in agreement with Father’s Word!
Father Gives Life and Breath
Our words are formed by breath. Without breath, we have no words! Every breath we take is a gift from God (Acts 17:25)! Therefore we need to consider carefully how we are using the gift of our breath, and thus our words.
Every word we speak is either a breath used for building up and supporting faith in Yahuwah [the LORD], or it is a breath used for tearing down and corrupting faith. For this reason, Father tests the growth of our faith, as He listens to the words we speak, especially when we are troubled or upset.
What we do with the breath that has been entrusted to us is an essential part of maintaining good spiritual health, not only for ourselves, but for others as well! Are we being good stewards of the breath/the words we speak? The Scriptures exhort us to use our breath wisely, by deliberately watching over our words, speaking words of excellence, edification, and faithfulness (Ephesians 4:29-32).
Test the Spirit
The word ‘breath’ is closely related to the word ‘spirit.’
Sometimes, the Hebrew word for ‘breath’ is also the same word for ‘spirit,’ as seen in Psalms 33:6:
By the word of Yahuwah [the LORD] were the heavens made; and all the host of them by the breath [spirit/rûach] of His mouth. (Psalms 33:6)
This verse reveals the power, and the equality, of Yahuwah’s breath [spirit/rûach] with His Word!
For this reason, we can see that Yahuwah [who created us in His own image], has given us a huge measure of power. Yahuwah has actually given us the ability to speak WORDS, that are as seeds planted, to bring forth fruit of either life or death (Proverbs 18:8, 21). No other creature has this ability! Therefore being good stewards of our words, guarding our words carefully, is a wise, noble, and godly trait!
Moreover, every breath we use for speaking words, reveals what spirit we are of, as the apostle John tells us:
Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try [test] the spirits, whether they are of God… (1John 4:1a)
The words we speak, in the form of our breath, are the evidence of what is in the deepest part of us — our heart, which is also our spirit, as seen in several verses of Scripture: Psalms 51:17; 78:8; Isaiah 57:15; 1Peter 3:4!
For example, Yahushua rebuked James and John for the destructive spirit they displayed by their words, when they wanted to take vengeance on those who rejected Yahushua (Luke 9:51-56). King David prayed for deliverance from false witnesses, those speaking lies against him, who “breathe out cruelty,” which is the evidence of a violent spirit (Psalms 27:12).
So it is, that the words we speak reveal not only what is in our heart, but also reveal what spirit we are of. Let us then ask ourselves: Are we of a good, loving spirit by the words we speak? Or, are we of an evil, hating spirit by the words we speak?
The Power of the Tongue
What we say with our words is far more revealing and more powerful than we realize! Notice what the Proverbs tell us:
Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. (Proverbs 18:21)
With our tongue, we can choose to speak words that build up others, bringing LIFE. Or, with our tongue, we can choose to speak words that tear down others, bringing DEATH. The end result is that we ourselves hear, and will eventually feed upon, the fruit of the words that we speak, either death or life.
By the power of our tongue [our words], we reveal our love for others, or our hatred of others. Yahuwah gave us clear instructions, throughout the Scriptures, on the kind of words we are to speak, and words we are not to speak, in order to show our love to others. Notice this passage in Leviticus:
You shall not go about as a talebearer among your people: nor shall you take a stand against the life of your neighbor: I am Yahuwah. You shall not hate your brother in your heart: you shall surely rebuke your neighbor, and not [continue to] bear [your own] sin because of him. You shall not take vengence, nor bear any grudge against the children of your people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself: I am Yahuwah. (Leviticus 19:16-18)
Because Yahushua Himself quoted the above verse in Leviticus 19:18, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:39), then we need to understand the value of the above passage. This passage is giving us instruction and insight so that we may know how we are to speak, and not to speak, in order to “Love our neighbor as ourselves!”
It is by our words that we show our love!! or our lack of love!! When we speak patiently, encouragingly, seeking to edify, then we bring life and love to others. As the above Scripture passage teaches us, loving others means we will not say words as a talebearer or as a grumbler, words as seeds of hatred that have become rooted in our heart.
Loving others means we will not take vengeance, nor hold a grudge against those who hurt us or persecute us. Instead, we will love others by forgiving others, as we are instructed many times in the Scriptures: “And be ye kind one to another, tender- hearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” (Ephesians 4:32).
Behind the cutting words of slander, talebearing, murmuring, anger, and hate, there is a spirit of violence, and even a spirit of murder (Proverbs 10:11b; 1John 3:15). Being a talebearer, complaining, hating, and speaking evil against another — these words do not show love to others, rather they injure others!
The wounds of a talebearer are so bad and so deep that many are not repairable:
The words of a talebearer are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly. (Proverbs 18:8)
If we speak words of talebearing, hatred, complaining, then the power of our tongue can be devastating and destructive, wounding all who hear such words. Such words harm and damage others deeply, emotionally and spiritually, damaging our own reputation as well.
Sadly, it is far too common to speak, and to hear, words that are hateful, slanderous, complaining, and gossip. These kind of words are extremely grievous and offensive to the Father, as they divide and destroy relationships (Proverbs 6:16-19). Yahuwah detests such words so much that He counted murmuring as one of the reasons for overthrowing the Israelites in the wilderness, so that they could not enter the Promised Land (Psalms 106:24-27; 1Corinthians 10:5-11).
However, if we will speak words of hope, love, thanksgiving, and faith, then the power of our tongue can be uplifting, edifying, and encouraging to all who hear such words. Notice the words Messiah has spoken:
“. . . the words that I speak unto you, they are spirit, and they are life. (John 6:63b)
Using Messiah’s example, we too may build up others, and bring life, when we choose to fashion our speaking according to the words of the Bible.
A Root of Bitterness
If we hate those who have hurt us, or if we hold a grudge against them, our slanderous words are evidence that we have a root of bitterness toward them, and a spirit of unforgiveness. A root is under the surface and therefore, many are unaware of the hidden nature of bitterness or hatred in the heart. It takes a genuine and intense honesty within ourselves, to admit the hiding presence of bitterness and hatred within our hearts!
Whenever a root of bitterness does surface, it is truly a defiling, destructive spirit, going forth out of an evil tongue, often damaging relationships, even whole congregations. Bitterness prevents us from loving others! It prevents our faith from growing, and it prevents Yahuwah’s Grace from coming to us (Hebrews 12:15; Proverbs 17:20).
If we are finding it difficult to genuinely love others, especially those close to us, then unforgiveness and bitterness could well be the problem. We must humble ourselves, and diligently seek to go before Yahuwah in prayer, to forgive all who have hurt us, lest a root of bitterness continue to trouble us, defiling many!
To truly love others, we must earnestly seek to be forgiving of all who hurt us, and to guard ourselves from being guilty of having an evil tongue, a lying tongue, a naughty tongue, a backbiting tongue, an angry tongue, or a bitter tongue — no matter how evil someone treats us.
We are cautioned many times in Scripture to guard the words of our mouth! We are warned by Yahushua that by our own words we will be judged and condemned: “For by your words you shall be justified, and by your words you shall be condemned.” (Matthew 12:37)
Warnings From the Proverbs
Will we choose to be among the Wise, or among the Foolish? The book of Proverbs is full of warnings about the difference between the words of the Foolish and those of the Wise:
The Words of a FOOL:
He that utters a slander is a fool. (Proverbs 10:18b)
A hypocrite with his mouth destroyeth his neighbor. (Proverbs 11:9a)
A fool’s mouth is his destruction. (Proverbs 18:7a)
The Words of the WISE:
The lips of the righteous feed many. (Proverbs 10:21a)
The lips of the wise shall preserve them. (Proverbs 14:3b)
The lips of the wise disperse knowledge. (Proverbs 15:7a)
If we are Wise, we will seek to discipline ourselves, and speak words of LIFE and faith in the form of Scripture verses — especially when others hurt us or slander us, or during moments of trials and affliction. When we speak words of life, love, and thanksgiving, these words become ‘solid food’ that nourishes our spiritual health. And as we saw in Where Can I Find Help, when we verbally proclaim our faith, regardless of the circumstances, we are bringing life and hope into our situation, building up our faith; we are exercising our spiritual muscles!
Our words are critical ingredients that will either build up, or tear down, our own spiritual health. With our words, we either strengthen our resolve to walk by faith, or we weaken it. Our words spoken in agreement with the words of the Bible, faith-filled words, are mighty shields and weapons in the spiritual realm, against the wiles of the enemy.
A wholesome tongue is a tree of life. (Proverbs 15:4a)
A wholesome tongue brings forth words of LIFE, love, wisdom, and faith. Let us be speaking aloud, and proclaiming, Scripture verses! This is how to give ourselves nourishing spiritual food, benefiting all who hear us.
Speaking words of Scripture strengthens our hope! When we, by Father’s grace, prepare and swallow this kind of life-giving ‘solid food,’ we can know that we are growing up spiritually, taking steps toward maturity. This is why Yahuwah encourages us to hold tightly to our profession, or proclamation, of faith!
The words we speak greatly affect ourselves, and others, deeply and eternally. Let us maintain discipline regarding our words, considering very carefully how we are using the gift of our breath, thus our words. Our words reveal what is deep within our heart, either good or bad.
Here are a few more suggestions for verses to proclaim personally:
Psalms 143:9-12; Isaiah 26:3 and Isaiah 41:10,13; Romans 15:13; 2Timothy 1:7; Ephesians 3:20.
“Everything we do affects other people, positively or negatively. That’s why it is foolish to say, ‘Do your own thing if it doesn’t hurt anybody else.’ Everything we do [and say] affects other people.” – James C. Dobson
- Proclamation for Overcomers
- Blessing Confessions (Good Proclamations)
- The Words We Speak
- Root of Bitterness
- Unforgiveness: Spiritual Poison
- Spiritual warfare: How to forgive others
- Enduring Our Trials
- No Discipline Seems Pleasant
- The Key to Gaining Understanding