Does the Heavenly Father desire for things to be well with you? Yes He does! He has said that He wants things to be well with you! (Ephesians 6:1-3)
How does this happen? What would it be like if things were well with me?
Would people stop whispering behind my back? Would my roommate clean the bathroom for once? Would I have enough money to pay my bills? Would my car get fixed correctly, without additional headaches? Would my parents be cheerful when I came home? Would my boss be reasonable, and stop picking a fight with me? Would I have fewer visits to the doctor?
Hmmmm. Good questions. Let’s see what the Bible says!
The word well is translated into other words in the Bible, so the phrase could also read, “That it may be good, pleasing, merry, cheerful, or better with you.” All of these words pretty much describe the meaning of well.
For things to be well with us means that things, in general, are going pretty good. For the most part, we would not have an inner rest-less-ness or uneasy-ness. Most importantly, life would tend to have minimal stress, without the nagging, frustrating, and at times overwhelming, irritations!
So, is there a key to having such a life? What could I do for things to be well with me?
Yes, there are two important qualifying keys found in the Scriptures, for things to BE well and GO well with us!
Let’s look at one of the two KEY requirements. (We looked at the other [equally important] key in That It May Be Well With You – Part Two.)
The Keeping of the Fifth Commandment
The 5th commandment is the first KEY for things to be well with us!
- Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and (that) thou mayest live long on the earth. (Ephesians 6:1-3)
- Honour thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee. (Deuteronomy 5:16)
The Fifth commandment, as the above Scriptures teach, is the commandment that has a built-in promise attached. It is the keeping of the Fifth Commandment that results in things being well and going well with us!
What an amazing promise!!! When we are being obedient to this commandment, we will have these promises!
Question: What would be a clue to show us that we are not honouring our parents?
Answer: Things, in general, do not go well with us!
In other words, the normal things of life will be troublesome, irritating, difficult, and often, very stressful! When things do not go well with us, then often, there is a meaningless, irritating ‘blip’ — things just do not go smoothly! And we also can sense an inner anxiety.
Keeping the Fifth Commandment is a foundational KEY to having things to go well with us!
When things are not going well, when we keep on running into irritating problems — when we are stressed because of continuous meaningless interruptions, then … it would be wise to consider and ask ourselves: “How am I treating my parents?”
Those who dishonour their parents will not have things going well with them, consistently. But those who seek to honour their parents live in the blessings of Yahuwah [the LORD]! Honouring parents is a major way to know the well-being that comes from Father’s blessings!
Many of us do not know how to honour our parents. Some do not want to honour their parents. Perhaps we think our parents have been unrighteous or unworthy of honour. Perhaps we were never taught how to honour and respect them.
Either way, the Fifth Commandment does not say “Honour your father and mother IF they have been good to you.” There is no qualifying ‘if‘ in that commandment! No, this commandment tells us to do it, plain and simple!
Yahuwah, the high and lofty One who inhabits eternity, stooped down and wrote The Ten Commandments with His finger (Isaiah 57:15; Exodus 31:18). Therefore, each one of the Ten Commandments is extremely significant in the lives of every person, whether we know the Words of Yahuwah or not!
[If you are not familiar with The Ten Commandments, they are found in the Bible (in Exodus and in Deuteronomy), in the section known as the Torah. Torah is the Hebrew word that means Father’s loving instructions, teachings, and guidelines, given to us for our good!]
Why Should We Honour Our Parents?
The honouring of our parents is far more important than many of us realize!
Our parents are given to us by Yahuwah to be our first earthly authorities. Our parents are our first, and our most intimate, authorities. They are representative of Yahuwah’s government in our lives.
Though parents have faults and make lots of mistakes, Yahuwah entrusted them with children. Therefore, it is their intimate position as our authority that is so very important for us to respect. Respect and honour toward our parents is crucial to our well-being!
Yahuwah watches us very closely to see how we behave toward our most intimate authority. Why? Because our parents represent Yahuwah’s position of authority!
Yahuwah knows exactly what each of us needs, and He chooses our parents as His representative for our good. Even if our parents seem unworthy or are not yet right with Yahuwah, that does not matter with regard to our own behavior to our parents. It is our own behavior that we must adjust and establish to be in harmony with Father’s standards, regardless of what our parents do!
Our parents are in the most intimate position of authority in our lives, and the way we treat our parents is, in essence, the way we treat Yahuwah! That is why things will be well with us when we honour our father and our mother because we are, in essence, showing honour to God!
Yahuwah Has Established All Governing Authorities
Yahuwah has established all governing authorities. In His Word, in Romans 13:1, He tell us:“there is no authority except from God, and those which exist are established, or ordained, by God.” If we resist the authorities that Yahuwah has established in our life, we are resisting Yahuwah. It is a very dangerous thing to resist Yahuwah!
All parents are governing authorities over their own children. Each one of us would do well to understand the position our parents have in our lives. Let me say it again: our parents hold a very important and unique position in our lives — the position of our most intimate governing authority, established by Yahuwah.
Parents are in a class by themselves. We are required to honour them in a special and unique way, showing respect for them like none others.
Our parents are not just some unspecified people that have been chosen at random. No, they are Yahuwah’s gift to us! Respecting their position as our most intimate authority is the key to understanding how to honour and respect them.
As I said, all parents have their faults and they make mistakes! However, they are the ones given to us by Yahuwah to be our parents. Our responsibility as children is to honour, respect, and obey our parents. This means we are to be subject to our parents, and to be obedient to them in all things that are not sinful or unlawful, by the Word of Yahuwah.
“But wait a minute!!! You do not know my parents!!!” as some may say.
It is not the focus of this article to discuss all the various issues regarding obedience to parents. The main point here is:
- the way we treat our parents is the way we treat Yahuwah!
If we honestly desire to love God and genuinely honour Him, we would make sure we have an attitude of respect, honour, and yieldedness to our parents. And, we would examine ourselves regarding the Fifth Commandment, to see whether things are going well with us or not.
And, if we really want to be wise and ‘go the second mile’ — if we really want to please and honour Yahuwah, then we will seriously consider applying the command of Colossians 3:20 to ourselves: Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. If we will do this, trusting and believing in the Heavenly Father’s abundant love for us, then He will make sure to work on our behalf, working together all things for our good! (Romans 8: 28)
How Do We Show Honour to Our Parents?
- Showing honour to parents includes listening to them patiently, speaking respectfully to them, being considerate to them in every situation, and genuinely seeking to learn what their wishes are for us.
- Showing honour to parents is trying our best to be thoughtful of them, making sure their physical needs are being met, and trying to fulfill their wishes, in all things that are not sinful or unlawful, by the Word of Yahuwah.
- Showing honour to our parents means we will always maintain good communication with them, including initiating communication with them.
Honouring our parents means we will seek to speak respectfully to them, and we will seek to speak respectfully about them.
Yahuwah has given parents intimate insight into their children. Parents have known their children from infancy. As children, it is important for us to patiently listen to their suggestions. Their insights are important clues for us to hear guidance and direction. Their suggestions could be confirmation for us from the Holy Spirit.
When we truly try to honour our parents, honestly try to please and serve our parents, and do things for them that give them peace-of-mind, then that is pleasing Yahuwah also!
And whatsoever we ask, we receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in his sight. (1 John 3:22)
As the above Scripture shows us — our prayers are heard and answered because we keep His commandments [the 5th Commandment is one of His commandments], and we are doing what pleases Him! What a glorious promise!
What Is Needed?
In some cases, honouring our parents may require great humility and repentance on our part, by going to them and asking their forgiveness. And then, by repenting in our actions — that is, changing our wrong behaviour toward them.
Perhaps we need to consider spending more time with our parents, or calling them on the phone more often to communicate our activities; or consider some way of including them more into our lives.
For some, honouring parents may require that we ask them to forgive us for our past rebellious attitude toward them, when we were younger. Others may need to repent of current, on-going hard-hearted ways toward parents.
For those whose parents have passed on and died, it may require words to be spoken out loud, such as, “Yahuwah, please forgive me for being rebellious to You, in my being rebellious to my parents. Thank you for forgiving me on their behalf.”
Some of us may need to pray daily by asking Father’s help to be able to show honour and respect to our parents.
For others, in may be necessary for us to forgive our parents, and saying the words “Yahuwah, I forgive my parents.” Let’s remember this word of Scripture:
But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. (Matt 6:15)
Seeking Yahuwah’s help to repent of any anger, resentment, and hatred toward our parents, and to seek forgiveness — these are big steps toward honouring parents.
Pleasing Yahuwah is our goal! He delights in our efforts to honour our parents and to obey the Fifth Commandment!
Think of it this way. When our parents are glad about something we do to honour of them — that same gladness comes to the heart of Abba Father, Yahuwah.
Remember also — most parents do not want to “take over” your life! Most parents simply want their children to be happy, peaceful, and walking in Abba Father’s truth and blessings.
So spend time with your parents and seek their input and counsel. Patiently listen to them! Maintain good communication with them! You’ll be glad for their counsel, if you are a wise person (Proverbs 1:7,8).
When a Man’s Ways Please the LORD
When a man’s ways please the LORD, He maketh even his enemies to be at peace with him. (Proverbs 16:7)
Pleasing your parents is also pleasing Yahuwah! And as we see in the above passage, when your ways please Yahuwah, He makes even your enemies to be at peace with you! This is indeed a blessing!
In other words, things will be well with you!
- Please see the companion post: That It May Be Well With You – Part Two
- The Ten Commandments
- First the Natural, Then the Spiritual
- Acquiring A Teachable Heart
- Prayer – Our Life-line to the Father
- To This One Will I Look
- Breaking Generational Curses – 1 hour video by Derek Prince; includes teaching on the importance of honouring our parents